An Entrepreneurial & Spiritual Mindset
HOW to clean your reality _ From rock bottom to the top!
Everybody tells you to have & create for yourself a better mindset. The kind of mindset that would help you achieve your wildest dreams. The “business leader” mindset that everyone talks about.
I don’t really care what name you want to give it: The one I want to help you get to is the one where your integrity is fully respected because all your values are cared for, the one where you do not lose or hide your identity but make it shine to the fullest.
‘Be the master of your thoughts hence of your reality’
Reality always seems external right? *huge gong rings
It is what you can see… What you can touch…
So why does it feel like it rings incorrect?
Maybe yes we experience our reality as being external, but in reality it is so much more internal. We are being our thoughts.
These thoughts we’re most of the time not paying attention to…
We are being them because we act from what we think; not even being aware that the action we just took actually came from a thought that passed our mind at the speed of light. So what people say: that our thoughts create our reality, that! rings true.
Hence my intention coming forward with this article is to show you HOW to think the way you want to think, and therefore be who you want to be.
Yet I’d like to draw your attention to the fact that I do not own a psychologist degree or anything of that sort. I also do not bear any responsibility in regards to the choices and actions you take following the read of this article.
Yet I can affirm to you the benefits of this process for having applied it myself. It comes from my personal experience with what I have felt and observed long enough in myself and others, and which is too important to me, not to speak about and teach.
In truth of heart, this is what I think, and aspire to see:
“We all have value. We all have something to TEACH.
I haven’t lived what I have lived for nothing.
You neither.
So please look at your life, and teach me what I am so eager to learn.”
I always break down a process so that people have clarity on what steps to take.
Here it consists of mental steps that can be (and which would be best) followed daily for as long as you feel it provides you with a change.
It will take some time and therefore a mental investment, but it will also result in helping you be who you truly are, who you truly mean to be and who you are truly meant to be.
It helps you in being more effective and way better in negotiation too,
because for having perspective on the latter; you’re set! since you thoroughly know where you wholeheartedly stand.
Whether you want to manifest your highest intentions in your work life or just as the person you are in this world, this transformative process is made to help you reach that goal, and in the healthiest way possible.
If the first step of the process makes you feel a little bit angry or frustrated, I would solely recommend that you try to push through, because it often is just an unpleasant trigger yes, but which as a result, opens a healing process.
When you’re done reading it all through, just go back to read and memorize each title of the 3 steps process. Simply because these advancements are not going to work over night, so it’s great to have a few words summing up each idea so you can remember what to do and not leave this article feeling like you’ve got work on your plate but don’t know where to start. It’d be sad considering the fact that its purpose is precisely to help you with the HOW.
Finally, I would strongly suggest you come read it again in a month or two, because your mindset will have changed so much until then, that the aspects that caught your attention during the first read will have been processed, and the parts you missed will then be available for your new mind to catch up on; Displayed and ready for you to take on or just understand by a simple read, so that you feel like you’ve come to terms with this phase of “becoming your true self (again)”.
Alright here now, what we solely need to remember is to focus on applying the process by simply reminding ourselves of the 3 titles…
Here we go…
1. LISTEN TO YOUR THOUGHTS
Why would you be the one who beats you down…all the time?
I’d like to know: What do you live for? What do we live for? Why do we live if we beat ourselves down? Why do you, if you dislike everything about yourself? While you know the only. person. you are forever and only gonna stay with, is yourself.
Now stop with the ‘I suck’, ‘I’m lame.’ ‘Bad.’ ‘Unsuseful.’ ‘Or ugly.’
Let’s stop! … Unuseful thoughts.
This is what is unuseful here.
And plus, let’s not beat ourselves down for having them by the way, since then we are just continuing on doing what we’ve just concluded to be something we do not want to do anymore.
Because yes! We ‘guilt’ ourselves for the pain we inflict on ourselves!
Let’s add some more pain on top, it’s gonna look good!
It’s pretty monster-like if we think of it. The way we treat ourselves. The way we act with ourselves. Don’t you think? And the worst is that we all know that most of the times, we only succeed (and sometimes we even don’t) in giving to others what we can give to ourselves. So the pain you are inflicting on yourself you are actually not inflicting on yourself and yourself only, but on everything. And everyone.
So what do you live for?
Tell me! Why do you live? Why do you choose to still be here every day?
What? Oh… you’ve had just enough compassion for yourself! Alright. That’s fine. That’s actually really good since I thought there was no compassion with the monster behaviour I talked about earlier that we keep showing for ourselves.
So maybe now we can think that, we don’t want to be monsters? that we make the choice not to be one? Because actually I am NOT a monster and I have never been one.
…I apparently struggle.
I just, struggle.
With myself,
People, and what they say to me,
What they think of me,
Anything, Everything.
But so this fact!
This fact that you’ve got enough strength. Enough love, to get up in the morning.
The fact that maybe you go out of your way for someone else, sometimes. Someone you care about, you dearly care about, or a complete stranger.
In the midst of pain.
Doesn’t this show, that you try at least a little to get better, to be better? Doesn’t this show that you wish to exit the pain; you desire to get better?
Doesn’t this mean that you love you?
Doesn’t it mean that you already love you?
But you’re struggling.
You’re struggling?
Good!!!! It solely means you care...
So now we know where it is that compassion had gone!
You feel mixed up in your head. But your soul knows. It knows what it cares about. And apparently you belong in the group of these people and things. Otherwise you wouldn’t be ‘guilting’ so much, struggling so much; CARING so much.
So, logic:
As we’ve established you love yourself. You can’t say no anymore, you know you do otherwise you wouldn’t be getting up in the morning. (Or else you just really love Life. But in that case why would you want to spend a shitty life with yourself just because of you? Right? So change this mindset.) Therefore you’re not supposed to be mean towards yourself.
And even if you already aren’t mean towards yourself then maybe you still aren’t nice, since you’re not pushing yourself to live your dreams or find happiness for yourself every day.
So, present:
No bringing us down on what we think should be or should not be.
No bringing us down on what we don’t see in ourselves but think we should.
Listen to your thoughts. What are they telling you?
Pay close attention.
And every. single. time you catch yourself having a bad thought; change it. As soon as you see it cross your mind,
Grab it.
2. ONE DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE
Don’t look at yourself like you’re looking at yourself for a moment.
Look at you, like you’re looking at someone you don’t know, or a friend… And look at this person through the eyes of who you are:
Look at yourself thinking that it’s not you you see AND look at this person while BEING you. The point is to look at this stranger-like person, through your own eyes, so you can see what YOU truly think about this person.
Now every time you catch yourself saying or thinking to yourself one of those thoughts, you pause. and tell yourself: Do I really believe what I’ve just said as truth? Do I really believe it to be true? And you take as much time as you need to turn it around in your head. even if it’s just a seemingly trivial thought, such as “I forgot the beans again”, you pause: “do I really want to think that?”. Because maybe there’s an aspect of judgment in this sentence. Maybe the tone you took in your head, to talk to yourself, is a harsh tone, disappointed tone.
‘I forgot the beans again’
Do you really think this for yourself?
Do you really wanna think that you suck about that, or do you want to think that yes you forgot the beans, but yes too you’re actually the one who’s always running errands.
Do you really wanna use that tone? Or do you want to use the tone of: hahah it’s so funny, how is it that it’s always the beans I forget?
What point of view on the subject do you really wanna take? Maybe you want to balance the scales a little.
Maybe there’s a little bit of that. But maybe there’s a little bit of that too? Right?
You don’t just suck at it or rock it.
You forgot the beans? You don’t suck!
You forgot the beans; maybe you were tired. Or maybe you were indeed the only one in your family to be finding yourself in the supermarket this friday night, so you’re fine. Here there is a nice balance. In a way you could think ‘I rock just by the simple fact that I was in that supermarket, trying, to get these beans’. So why do you choose black when you’re presented with black and white? Personally I choose grey, except when I’m not feeling at my best then I choose white!
So when you judge yourself, use these thoughts process: How am I?
No, not that.
Maybe that?
Am I that? Well I don’t know for that but I know for that. So as a conclusion, I believe that this is accurate, and this… I am maybe or maybe not. I don’t know.
…Yes for this part, I really don’t know what I think about myself. But I’m fine. I can work on finding that out later on. I’m good with that now. I’m actually really good with that now. I’m actually way better than usual.And I’m happy I know what I think about it.
3. YOUR TRUE AUTHENTIC MINDSET
The ultimate goal is to have your true authentic mindset. A positive mindset you consider to be beautiful, that fits you and that you almost cherish. One that makes you happy every day. One that makes you appreciate yourself for being so compassionate, caring and true to yourself.
Following the 2 steps above should get you there. Listening to affirmations in that purpose could also help tremendously. There are plenty of them on Youtube.
Even better if you create your own affirmations, quotes and mantras.
I like quotes. They relate. They sum up what I couldn’t express clearly with my thoughts. Or what I’ve been struggling with in my mind.
They free me from the overthinking. They give me an answer to my questions. A soothing word to my worries and pain.
As for mantras, they are actually so much more than we think. Simple sentences. But if you take one that really matters to your heart, and use it for a couple days, you’ll see that it gives you back so much strength when your temper is crushed. Refueling you, because you’re right away connecting to your heart. You’re reaching for your soft spot. And you hit.
Don’t forget to:
- Listen to your thoughts and analyse them
- See and think about yourself as a stranger from time to time
- Create your true authentic mindset! thanks to the 2 previous steps & the help of quotes, mantras and affirmations
Who do you want to become?
Woman, man, boy, girl, … dogs and cats lurking at the screen from your owner’s lap or laptop…
Who do you want to become?
Thank you for reading this article. I really hope it’s helped you consider yourself differently.
Don’t forget that everything is percepetion.
As the short stories’ author Alice Munro wrote:
Everything is black, but that is only paint.
Sending you Love and Light on following your dreams
Yours,
~ Aline Charles
